From Behind Our White Picket Fence Week 198
By Freddy and Eddy
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Need A Libido Recharge?
Even smut purveyors like us fall into sexual droughts now and again. To inject a boost into your bedroom energy, try abstaining from masturbation and other outside sexual stimulation (such as online porn or magazines) for a few days, or even a few weeks. Day to day sexual energy isn’t infinite, contrary to what we’d like to believe, so saving your orgasms/climaxes for that special someone will result in not only more frequent encounters, but increased intensity when they do occur. Remember Burgess Meredith’s line from Rocky, “Women weaken legs!” If you must masturbate, try doing so without reaching full climax. In our ten years plus working with couples and individuals trying to improve their sex lives, this one tweak has probably helped more than all the toys we’ve sold.
To be clear, we don’t disapprove of self-gratification; however, we rarely engage in masturbation without the other present. To us, while it may seem all well and good to find some explicit online photos or video to quicken the pulse in private, the gratification rarely compares to the real thing – even when said “real thing” isn’t volcanic. In our experience, a few days of deprivation can actually kick start things, so challenge yourself to cease the spanking and yanking and see if things don’t suddenly improve dramatically with your real inspiration.
Sex Tip: Try making love via Skype! Most homes now have more than one PC, often sporting video cameras, speakers, and microphones. Put a twist on sex by making a video phone call and self-pleasuring for each other over the internet. Only have one camera? Have the partner without the cam give instruction and watch the other for the best live sex show of them all.
Sex Fact: The average male produces several million new sperm daily. Conversely, a female is born with a finite amount of eggs and will produce no more than that throughout her lifetime.
Sexual Wisdom:
Because of three basic elements in sex, you come to a blissful moment. Those three are, first: timelessness. You transcend time completely. There is no time. You forget time completely; time ceases for you. Not that time ceases, it ceases for YOU; you are not in it. There is no past, no future. This very moment, here and now, the whole existence is concentrated. This moment becomes the only real moment...
Secondly: in sex, for the first time, you lose your ego, you become egoless... You are not, neither is the other. You and your beloved are both lost into something else. A new reality evolves, a new unit comes into existence in which the old two are lost - completely lost...
And thirdly: for the first time, in sex you are natural. The unreal is lost, the facade, the face is lost; the society, the culture, the civilization is lost. You are a part of nature - as trees are, animals are, stars are... You are in a greater something - the cosmos, the Tao... You are just floating, you are taken by the current.
Osho, The Book of Secrets
Freddy and Eddy – aka Ian and Alicia Denchasy – can be reached via e-mail at freddy@freddyandeddy.com.
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