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Cunnil-wha?
Cunnilingus, silly!
Oral sex, eating pussy, munching carpet, etc.; cunnilingus is the
act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can
include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the
vagina, and most often involves direct stimulation of the
clitoris. Some women find cunnilingus to be the most satisfying
sexual act. Indeed, a great number of women report that oral sex
is the only way they can achieve orgasm. The mouth can create a
uniquely intense range of sensations which many find unrivaled.
So, I just
take my tongue and start licking her clit, right?
Sure, you could
do that, but that's like being satisfied with the appetizer and
skipping the main course. To give really great oral sex, you need
to learn about the whole vaginal area, including the clitoris.
Though the clit is the central pleasure mechanism on a woman, the
entire area is fertile ground for your tongue, fingers, and toys.
Tell me more
about this clitoris thing!
 The clitoris is
an organ unique in the whole of the female human body - it is
devoted solely to sexual pleasure. As variable and exciting as
women themselves, each clitoris is different: some small and
hidden, some large and prominent. All, however, are capable of
providing ecstasy.
How do I know
what she wants?
You will never
know what your partner wants or finds satisfying unless you talk
to them. If it is your first time with a particular partner,
communication may seem uncomfortable. Don't worry. Do you really
think that your new partner will be annoyed or upset if you ask
her what she wants? A vast majority of women will be quite
pleased. Do not be discouraged if you partner offers you advice;
be overjoyed because you are learning what they find pleasurable
which will make you a better lover as a result. A sense of humor
is another great way to ease any tension which may exist between
new lovers. A light-hearted approach to your sexual encounter will
make it more enjoyable for both of you.
What are the
best ways to give her oral pleasure?
 The clitoris is
central to female sexual arousal, as it contains most of the
sexually charged tissues in the body. The logical first step for
many lovers, therefore, is to directly stimulate the clitoris
right off the bat. The catch is many women will not be very
responsive to this jump-for-the-clitoris approach. Take things
slow at first, kissing and licking her stomach and thighs, then
the area around her clitoris. Build her arousal level slowly,
gradually increasing pressure and speed with your mouth. Once you
know she’s aroused (i.e. if she’s told you or motioned so) you can
then move to the clitoris.
Many women enjoy
a massage of the mons. The mons in the mound of skin which is
found on top the pubic bone above the vaginal opening. Take one or
both of your hands and carefully move the mons and surrounding
area much the same way you would massage someone's shoulders. Be
careful not to press too hard or make too wide a circular
movement. As you manually stimulate the mons, you can move your
mouth to the vulva. When soothing her vulva with your tongue, you
may wish to concentrate solely on the clitoris after some
stimulation of the labia or you may wish to lick the surrounding
areas. Some women need constant clitoral stimulation to reach
orgasm so ask your partner what she would have you do. Clitoral
stimulation can be exciting but don't be too eager.
The way that you
use your tongue is important. Provide different textures by
altering the natural flex of your tongue. When your tongue hangs
limp and flat, it provides a soft caress. When your tongue is
flexed and rigid it provides more direct and firm stimulation. Try
some of each and determine which your partner prefers. Some women
will want rapid motions of continuous licking while others prefer
long, slow caresses.
Lubricants
are usually thought of in terms of penetration only, but they can
add excitement during cunnilingus as well. You can try a nice
water-based lubricant, such as
Sliquid H20. Lubricants come in a wide variety of flavors
and help protect the sensitive tissues of the vagina during
stimulation.
When a
woman becomes sexually aroused her vagina balloons and her uterus
rises. Women often enjoy the feeling of penetration during oral
sex. This penetration can be well lubricated fingers or a dildo.
While there is a wide selection of
dildos on the market, some men may feel
uncomfortable using a dildo that resembles a penis. A great
solution to this problem are the glass dildos. The elegant design
of these glass products allows them to double as inconspicuous art
that can be kept on the shelf as opposed to hidden in a drawer.
Gently follow the natural curvature of the vagina for smooth
entry. If you find that it's a little difficult to coordinate
everything you should try the
Ohh Gee. You've got to
see this one to believe it. It's a chin-mounted dildo. What will
they think of next?
Are there
better positions for great cunnilingus?
Of course! Just
consider the range of possible positions for cunnilingus. Each
position will be uniquely satisfying, so it is best for you and
your partner to experiment and determine which one(s) you prefer.
Most couples begin with the woman sitting in a chair or on the
bed. This gives full access to the genitals and support to the
back so that the woman is relaxed and her hands are free to
stimulate herself. The partner performing oral sex can lie or sit
facing the woman, free to use his or her hands for stimulation
with the fingers.
Another popular
position is for the woman to squat on all fours over her lover's
face as she or he is lying down. Some people prefer this position
because it allows a woman to move her pelvis to accentuate the
stimulation. This position also allows a couple to mutually
stimulate one another (the so-called ‘69’) when it is performed
each partner at opposite ends. If you are a more meticulous giver
of oral sex, you may not like this position because it is
difficult to place your tongue right where you want it. Couples
who wish to engage in playful dominance-submissive role playing
might like to try standing while the other partner performs oral
sex on his or her knees. |
