Give great fellatio - me?
fellatio is not a difficult task once you know where to begin.
First, a word about semen. You may or may not enjoy the taste of
semen (salty and sour with a somewhat viscous texture) depending
on your partner or your own preferences. Semen tastes different
depending on the man. If you prefer not to swallow or spit the
semen, you may ask your partner to signal you when he reaches the
point before climax. At this point, continue gentle stimulation
with your hands.
Another issue for
many people is whether or not to "deep throat" or take the penis
past the gag reflex in the throat. Many people have learnt how to
control their gag reflex, but good fellatio does not depend on
deep throating. Many men do not even notice when you do it.
So, do I just
get him hard and start sucking?
Too many people
during fellatio concentrate solely on the penis. The penis does
contain highly sensitive erectile tissue, but there are many other
sexually sensitive areas on a man’s body. Unknown to many are the
pleasures that men receive from having their entire genital area
massaged. During oral sex the penis can be stimulated while these
other areas are massaged. Many men like to have their scrotum and
testes fondled or licked during oral sex. This could be as simple
as placing your hand and cupping the scrotum, or as bold as taking
the testes into your mouth. The most erogenous zones on a man’s
genitals include the back of the head of the penis, the line of
skin that runs down the center of the testicles, and the underside
of the shaft of the penis. Try stimulating these areas with your
tongue as well as taking the entire penis into the mouth.
Another form of
stimulation that many men like is to have their perineum stroked.
The perineum is the area in between the scrotum and the anus. This
area is sensitive when the male is aroused. You may like to try
rigorously massaging the perineum just prior to orgasm which gives
many men a rush of pleasure. Some men like to have their prostate
massaged during oral sex as well. This is accomplished by placing
your finger up the man’s anus. Make sure that your fingernails
have been cut short and place some lubricant on your finger.
Gently run your hand from the perineum to the anus and massage the
outside of the anus. Push your finger in the anus with your palm
up. Slowly raise your finger until you feel a bump. This bump
grows throughout age; it may be the size of a golf ball in young
adulthood and the size of a pear in later life. Stimulation of the
prostate is an incredible sensation that amazes most men.
OK, what do I
specifically do with his penis?
Now that you
have learned about stimulating the areas around the penis it is
time to learn about how to stimulate the penis itself. While the
penis is a generally sensitive organ, there are many areas of the
penis which are not particularly responsive to stimulation. When
learning how to give great fellatio you must concentrate on the
most sensitive areas of the penis. The first area which is
particularly sensitive is the frenulum. This is the area just
below the head of the penis on the underside, and is perhaps the
most sensitive part of the penis. The seam of the penis which runs
from the scrotum to the head, the base of the penis, and the
entire head of the penis are other sensitive areas. You can
concentrate on these by licking or sucking just around the
Once you have the
penis in your mouth there are a couple of guidelines which will
make oral sex more pleasurable for your partner and less stressful
for you. First of all, most men do not like the feeling of teeth
on their penis. Teeth can cause discomfort and may even rip the
skin if you are not careful. There are some men who like a little
bit of the friction which teeth can provide but it is best to
minimize teeth to penis contact. This is easily accomplished by
tucking your lips around your teeth before you perform fellatio. A
way to practice is to place your lips together and teeth apart.
Open your lips slowly while keeping your teeth apart and there you
have it. Another important aspect of fellatio is lubrication. Most
people use their own saliva as lubrication. If you are using a
condom for fellatio, try to buy an unlubricated variety.
Lubricated condoms tend to have a bad taste. If you'd like to try
lubricant during fellatio, you can purchase a flavored lubricant
to turn a normal latex condom into something tasty, or use it on
its own for a unique experience.
What are the
best positions for fellatio?
agreeable position for fellatio is usually not a difficult task.
The key aspects are that the man is comfortable and that the
person performing fellatio has access to the genitals. With an
erect penis there is an additional consideration; the person
giving head should be positioned so that the angle of the penis
and the angle of the giver’s throat are somewhat aligned.
A common position
for fellatio is when the man receiving sits or lies on a bed with
his partner kneeling or lying on the ground in front of him. This
gives the person who is performing oral sex complete access to the
penis, scrotum and anus. The position is also at a good angle for
the throat so that entry of the penis into the mouth is not a
problem. (Note: if you do not like the man receiving fellatio to
stroke your hair or face during oral sex then tell him beforehand.
It can be extremely non-erotic if both of you are turned off by
that may interest you and your partner is to allow the man to very
carefully insert and withdraw the penis from the mouth. Typically
the performer of fellatio will lie comfortably on the bed and
receive his or her partner from above. If you are trying this
position for the first time then it may be a good idea to have the
man hold the base of his penis so that the penis doesn't enter so
far as to put pressure on your gag reflex.
You may also want
to try mutual oral sex in the ‘69’ position. This can be
accomplished either with one partner above on all fours, or lying
on each other’s sides. In the case of male-female mutual oral sex,
you may want to try having the man lay on his back so the woman
can better control penetration in her mouth.
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